Archive for October 2014

I Blamed The Victim, Too – Until I Became One

    “Mother Teresa would never marry Saddam Hussein.” These words were spoken to a friend of mine in reference to me after the death of my 15-month-old son, Prince McLeod Rams , during a panel discussion on family court. Four years ago, I would have believed the same thing. Since then, I have learned…

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Honoring Another Survival Date

  Two years ago, on October 21st 2012, I held my son in my arms as his heart stopped beating.  Just a few days ago, I sat in a Prince William County Courthouse and saw my son’s killer for the first time in nearly two years.  Many people expected that I would get some sort…

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How To Stay Sane In Family Court

In a perfect world, two people who have a child together would stay together forever living happily ever after with their children.  In a next to perfect world, couples who divorced would both me mentally healthy people, who were both great parents, and they could work out a perfect schedule where the children would have…

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Choose Love Over Hate

  “Behold, children are a gift of the LORD; The fruit of the womb is a reward.”  – Psalm 127:3   Almost a year ago, my daughter was born.  I fell in love with her from the moment I knew she existed.  Every time I saw her on the sonogram (usually in the middle of her…

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Saving Forgiveness For The Forgivable

    Early this week, I read an article about a woman who forgave her rapist in open court.  To give you some quick background on this story, Jane Piper was raped and beaten in the back seat of her car 11 years ago.  For 11 years, she had been mulling over some choice words…

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